Your Boyfriend is Acting Distant – Strategic Steps to Take Now to Save the Relationship

Published: 16th March 2010
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When your boyfriend is acting distant towards you it's easy to let your imagination take over. For most women it's inner intuition that first alerts them to the fact that something subtle has changed in their relationship. He may not reach out to hold your hand as often or he has more than a few excuses for why he has to cancel dates at the last minute. Although some men will still say they love you at this point, your heart knows that it's just not the same as it once was. If you feel your boyfriend is slowly slipping away, you need to act quickly. Ignoring the issue is only going to make matters worse. Sooner or later he'll come to you and tell you that he's not happy anymore and he feels it's best if you two break up. If that's the last thing you want, take the steps necessary now to secure his love and keep the relationship together.

The first thing you're likely to do when your boyfriend is acting distant is try and get him to talk about what's bothering him. It's understandable that you'd do this as you want to flesh out the problem and fix it. The reason this approach usually fails is that he just doesn't feel open to talking about it because he's anticipating that you're going to get overly emotional on him. You likely would, right? So instead he'll just prolong things until they reach a point where you're both so uncomfortable with each other that a break up is the only solution. That's why it's best to not push him to talk. Instead, you're going to take some action that will change the dynamic between you two fairly quickly.

If your boyfriend needs space and he's made that clear to you by pulling back, you need to mimic his behavior. You have to give him that space, regardless of how much it hurts you to do so. If he was satisfied and fulfilled in the relationship this wouldn't be happening. That's why you need to determine what changed and what you can do to remedy it. Think about the relationship in general and what he's complained about. That's what you need to work on repairing.

Giving your boyfriend some time alone is essential to keeping him in love with you. You need to show him that you respect his needs so tell him that you feel that a bit of time apart would be helpful for you both. Then apologize for whatever you've done that you believe has contributed to his feeling distant. After that, work on changing it. Don't make promises about how things will be different in the future. Just change the things you know need changing.

Quite often what happens in a situation like this is the man gets his distance and then very quickly realizes he doesn't want it. Being apart means that you'll miss each other. Once he has some time alone and he realizes that you're putting in the effort to improve the relationship, it's very likely that he'll see things much differently. The key is to not panic, let him go and make those improvements in you. This will show him that you believe he's worth your love and every man wants to feel that from the woman they're with.

Learn exactly what you need to be doing and saying to keep your boyfriend. Doing the wrong thing can mean the end of the relationship forever.

Don't give up on him if you believe he's the man you are meant to be with. There are specific methods you can use that will make you irresistible to him again.

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